This as-told-to essay is based on a conversation with Samantha Stobo, a 32-year-old living in Miami with her mom. It has been edited for length and clarity.
When life feels like it’s falling apart, it may actually be coming together. I was in a tough spot in 2022, but I wouldn’t change anything because it led me to where I am now.
I was working in private equity in New York for five years. After going fully remote during COVID, my company wanted to return to the office five days a week. I had enjoyed the remote lifestyle and was reluctant to go back.
Then, I experienced a difficult breakup with my boyfriend. Turning 28, I realized I didn’t want to stay in New York anymore.
I called my mom, and she said, “I don’t know why we’ve never done this before, but why don’t you come work for me?”
The plan was to move in with her in Miami, regain my bearings, and start working alongside her. That was three years ago, and it’s been perfect ever since.
My mom owns a wellness hotel in Costa Rica, and I assist her with business development and marketing, preparing to eventually take over the company.
My mom moved to Miami from California in 2021 because it’s closer to Costa Rica. I wasn’t worried about living with her; our relationship is fantastic. I was more concerned about the stigma of moving back in with parents, as if it meant losing my independence.
When I first moved in, we were in a small two-bedroom rental with my mom’s boyfriend. We laugh about how cramped it was now, but it was fun. Now we have a much larger home with four bedrooms and four baths.
In 2023, my mom purchased her own home, which brings new expenses like weekly cleaners and groceries, all paid for by her. I contribute a fixed amount of $2,000 monthly to the household.
After ten years of living independently, adapting to sharing a home again was challenging. I had grown used to buying my own groceries and navigating issues with roommates.
My mom loves cooking, often preparing my meals and even doing my laundry sometimes. It was an adjustment for me to recognize that while she takes care of certain things, I need to maintain my independence.
Initially, when I returned home late after hanging out with friends, she would panic. Open communication has been crucial; I taught her to use location-sharing apps, which improved our understanding.
Living and working together has been a unique experience. I see the value in not getting a separate apartment, especially since we’re always discussing work, sometimes even on weekends.
Occasionally, it’s challenging to separate work from family chores; minor conflicts can arise. But overall, it has worked out well for us.
It was intended to be a temporary arrangement, but three years later, I have no plans to move out. While I sometimes feel stressed about the future, it works for us at this stage of our lives.
Having a built-in best friend has made a significant difference. Life can be tough, but coming home to a safe and supportive environment has been incredibly beneficial for my mental health.