Almost nine years ago, while pregnant with our eldest, my husband asked if I wanted to be a stay-at-home mom. I declined.
I realized that I wouldn’t thrive without the daily interactions that come from working. My career provides me with a sense of fulfillment that I need.
Since then, we have made financial decisions based on the fact that we have two incomes in our household. I earn more than my husband, but we seldom discuss it directly. We simply pool our resources and budget together.
When he changed careers—from military service to becoming a diesel mechanic—the income gap widened. Though it was a financial sacrifice, it offered us significant benefits. We now live near family without worrying about abrupt relocations, and he is much happier.
Despite an initial loss in salary, I fully supported his career shift. It came with reduced stress and greater job satisfaction. As he advances in his field, earning more through certifications and overtime, our income gap is narrowing again, and both of us enjoy our work.
It has never bothered him that I earn more. Despite his traditional upbringing, he takes pride in my achievements from day one. He is my biggest supporter, and we discuss financial decisions openly. We share joint accounts and decide together how to allocate extras, whether it’s saving for a vacation or purchasing household items.
I also admire his journey and work ethic. I understand that not all paychecks reflect hard work, as some careers are inherently more lucrative than others.
Recently, our kids, who are five and seven, expressed the belief that “Daddy makes all the money.” This perception puzzled me. My self-employed hours are flexible, allowing me to work while they sleep, while my husband has a more traditional schedule and often discusses money in front of them.
Upon hearing their comments, he clarifies that I actually earn more and emphasizes the importance of my contributions. He encourages them to respect my career and acknowledges my abilities.
Together, we navigate our finances, strengthening our partnership and communication. Having a husband who supports my career and teaches our children the same is more valuable than any paycheck.